Eleven Down, One To Go

Hello, earthlings.

Welcome to the second last ‘Lessons of the Month’ post for 2016.

Honestly, this year has been a doozy of a year. Just a sad, pathetic excuse for a year. And after August, November surely turned out to be the black sheep of all the months.

Thanks, November.

I’m so glad you are finally done.

Honestly, I have made so many bad decisions this month, it is hardly funny. Just one bad choice right after another, despite an entire half of my brain yelling at me to not do this thing, to turn the other way. But did I listen? God, no. And as a result, I had to bear the consequences.

Ah, well. Bad days count for experience, right? And like the wise Colleen Hoover says in her novel Maybe, Someday: you need a couple of bad days to keep the good days in perspective. So, keeping that in mind, let’s recount the top three lessons learnt in the month of November. Ready? Here goes:

* Take time to love yourself. Do not push yourself to the point of destruction; nothing in this world is worth it.

* Never compromise on your integrity, your principles for anything at all.

* Persevere with everything that you are. Do not stop, and do not take shortcuts, because by doing so, you admit that you aren’t good enough.

Lesson #1 is a result of my body shutting down for a solid 72 hours last week when I came home after my last practical exam, then went to a wedding party, and woke up the next day with a sore throat, blocked nose, and a 102 degree fever. It took me three days to be able to stay upright for longer than ten minutes, and four and a half days before I could sit and even attempt to study.

Clearly, my body had had enough. So, you know, do not try this at home.

Lesson #2 and #3 are a culmination of the back-to-back exams that I’ve given this past month alone, which often need all of us to make certain tough choices. Whether or not you follow through with those choices though, is completely your call.

You know, this past year has been the craziest of all, but it has also taught me way more than the twenty before it. It has brought me closer to who I really am, and relieved me almost entirely of my escapist ways, if I may say so myself. We shall deliberate over all the magical happenings of 2016 soon, I promise you, ladies and gentlemen.

For now, I have six exams to give over two weeks, starting December 7, so please excuse me. You already know what you got to do: it’s now or never.



Deserve Everything

I know, I am fully aware of the fact that I haven’t posted much these past few months except the end-of-the-month posts–and for that, I apologize. But I’m here now, and that’s what matters, right?

So, hi. Firstly, let’s just all take a moment to realize the fact that 2016 is soon going to breathe its last, which is absolutely freaking me out. It’s like every year comes with new and improved speed, and the minute you feel like you have found your groove, oops it’s January 1 again.

Damn, time. Stick to one gear. This isn’t Formula 1, don’t be showing off your racing skills.

Another thing that does not make me too glad is my inability to participate in the National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo for short), thanks to the million exams that November comes with, one right after another. I have just been watching November fly right by for the past two years, while I study and make notes and write exams (and stalk other NaNoWriMo writers over on Instagram & Tumblr). It’s just sad, that’s all there is to it. It is just one of the many things that get sacrificed in the name of ‘hard work’ and ‘future’.

I get it, I really do; I understand that now is the time that you grind and work hard so that your future is secure and fulfilling, but on a day to day basis, it is difficult to continually remind myself of that. But hey, can’t complain, right?

Besides, the more work I put in now, the sooner I can start doing all the things that I truly love doing. Most mornings, when I feel my back hurting, the throbbing in my head so severe that my vision turns blurry, all I can think about is “I am so tired.” But despite what my body tells me, no matter how tired I feel, I know that I am more than that.

You know, of late, I feel like whatever I am doing now is going to have a direct and severe consequence on my future, which worries me and excites me, all the same. Slacking off is clearly not an option, and neither is dishonesty. I wear my pride like a shield, that keeps me from making bad choices, no matter how trivial they may seem. I take what I deserve, and I take only those things that I have worked for. It’s a thin line to walk, but I’ve seen my mother do it all my life, and I want to be just like her.

The point of this post is, if you want something, work hard for it. Do not wait around for someone to just hand it over to you, because success tastes sweeter than everything on this planet combined. To do that, you do not have to be lucky or smart; you just have to be deserving.

Like the wise Avett Brothers say:


I shall see you guys soon with the November lessons. Until then you know what to do: live like it’s now or never.



Ten Down, Two To Go

Hello, ladies and gentlemen.

Welcome to the end of October post, also known as the official start of winter here in India.


You already know that I’m biased toward October, since I am an October baby, after all. This October, I turned 21 on the 5th, and since then, life has been unraveling itself layer by layer. Each morning, I wake up with this sense of The Unknown, like there must be something or the other new that happens today, and it does! My car went off to the workstation this month, leaving me at the mercy of public transport (which isn’t much, to be very honest). It came back this past Thursday, and I’m so relieved, to say the least. Let’s just say I have this renewed profound sense of appreciation for my Baby, and all that it does for me.

Anyway. Moving on to the point of this post: top three lessons of October.

♥ Live life like it is meant to be lived: uninhibited, gratefully, and to the very fullest.

Being happy is a continuous job; it takes work and conscious effort. Make an effort for yourself.

Better things are afoot: always remember that.

It boggles my mind how quickly time passes as we grow older. But in all honesty, 2016 did have a slower pace than the two before it, and I’m thankful for that. And there’s still two months left; more than enough time to make some more memories.

Yesterday was Diwali, one of the biggest (and prettiest) festivals of India, so I’m going to share some pictures with you. For more, you may check out my Instagram (@snigdharai5) and/or Twitter (@CaffeineLover5)!

See you soon.



Pictures, as promised:

Lights, everywhere

Lights, everywhere





More lights!

More lights!


Me, being fancy in Indian attire

Me, being fancy in Indian attire

21 Life Lessons

You know, up until last year, I was convinced that all birthdays deserve to be celebrated grandly, especially the milestone ones like, well, the 21st.

Cut to now, today, to the eve of my 21st birthday, and I feel like the real purpose of birthdays is not to just grab a couple of greetings and eat cake (cake is important, though), but to reminisce the years gone by, and celebrate the victories you have had over time. The said victories need not be something monumental; they just have to be important and meaningful to you. You have made it this far, through the mess and gore and the sadness and the pain—-and if that isn’t reason enough to pat yourself on the back and smile, I don’t know what is.

So, in honor of completing twenty one years of life as Snigdha Rai, daughter, sister, and caffeine-addict, I want to share with all of you twenty one life lessons that I’ve learnt over the past years. Consider this as my gift to all of you wonderful people who take time out of their day to read this blog.

Ready? Here goes:

1. Sometimes, keeping quiet is the safest option, but not always the correct one.

2. There is such a thing as waiting too long; don’t make that mistake. ‘Right time’ is a myth.

3. It’s easier to ask for forgiveness, than to ask for permission.

4. Some things are easier said with a phone line and a couple of miles in between, than in person.

5. Best friends are not supposed to be the wise ones; they are supposed to be the ones that have your back even when they know you are headed for a dead-end.

6. Family is a transitory concept, so it is utterly foolish to accept that things will stay the same forever. For better or for worse, they shall change.

7. Give people more credit than they deserve, always, so that when they screw up, you can yell ‘I told you so’ in their stupid faces.

8. Don’t stick around people who radiate negativity, or make you feel bad about yourself. Their insecurities feed off of your existence, and you don’t want to give them that pleasure, trust me.

9. Find what you love, and keep tremendously interested in it, come what may.

10. There will always be that one place where you can find true peace, even if your world is in shambles. Discover that place, and escape there whenever things go sideways.

11. Self love should be your topmost priority, always.

12. People are always a little too quick to form expectations, especially if it is convenient to them; don’t feel bad if they tell you they are ‘disappointed’, because mostly, that ‘disappointment’ only stems from inconvenience, not love.

13. Experience everything, but also resign yourself from the influences of them.

14. There is always a better life out there, and you are worth it. Always keep working in the direction of the life you want to live.

15. Never, ever apologize for feeling something.

16. Things don’t judge you, people do. Your nerdy glasses won’t judge you for wearing them, but the stupid thick-headed mean girl would.

17. Intentions matter, facts do not. They are as different as a page and a story; a single page does not tell you the whole story.

18. People can only affect you for as long as and as much as you let them.

19. Relationships are not bargain deals: you shouldn’t have to put up with anyone’s shit just because you like someone you both know.

20. Fall in love on the daily, with the littlest of things: the rain, the sun, and just life in general.

21. Be grateful for every new day, every new chance to right the wrongs, and live life a little more.



Bit different than my usual birthday posts each year, I know, but hey, it’s the Big 21–different is cool. Tomorrow is The Day, but I have college till 5, then probably a quiet dinner with the family is probably what’s going to happen. Dad’s not here, so I’m dialing back on the celebrations until we can all be together and celebrate. I want to take this time to say thank you for every single person who has been a part of my life for the past year (or ever, actually), good or bad, because I’m sure I have learnt something or the other from you. So, thanks.

Here’s hoping that the years to come shall arrive bearing their own gifts and surprises, and bucket loads of experiences.

Here’s hoping that we all find we are looking for, and also what we aren’t quite sure we need.

Here’s to life ❤

I’ll see you later, hopefully with pictures from the celebrations. I’ll try to click pictures of everything I do, but no promises. Meanwhile, you do whatever makes you happy. It’s now, or it’s never.



Nine Down, Three To Go

Hello, ladies and gentlemen. Welcome to another Lessons Of The Month post.

You know, in retrospect, I think that doing this post at the end of every month has not only been crucial in maintaining regularity in posting, but also help me stop for a hot minute and just be, you know? Just having a single minute to do nothing but breathe is a great way to keep all your crazy locked in, trust me. 😉

Okay, so about September: it was one hell of a ride, in all honesty, like it usually is. September is the go-between, the buffer between hot, sweaty days of summer, and the cool, crisp winter. But more than anything else, it comes with this sense of purpose that puts me in the correct head space, no matter how lost or disoriented I am. It just clears up the mist, enough for me to realize what’s important and what isn’t.

Well, now that we’re all upto speed, let’s recount the lessons what the ninth month of the year has been kind enough to teach us, shall we? Let’s go:

  • Fear is what holds people back, keeps them from being who they should be, or who they are destined to be.
  • People are free to make their own choices, and the fact that we do or do agree with their choices may not be of prime importance to them. Learn to be okay with that, learn to respect their choices.
  • One step backward today can easily be compensated with two steps forward the next day, so don’t beat yourself up too much for not being your one-hundred percent every single moment of every single day.

As I told you guys in my last post, I’m turning 21 next month, and for the first time in my entire existence, I feel like I’m finally at a place in my life where I can rehash everything that has been weighing down on me since I don’t know when. It’s still a work in progress (it’s twenty one years worth of baggage people, come on), but at least it’s begun.

This year, I’m going to break all the rules all the freaking way and instead of letting people chart out my birthday for me (hell, no), I’m going to do it myself. Dad’s not here, which is the reason I’ve given my mother and sister to back up and not plan anything, and I have college anyway. To be honest, I’m just so tired of the routine, the expectedness that is associated with the one day that is supposed to be unpredictable, exciting and well, joyful.

Also, I’ve been on a roll with picking out and buying gifts for myself (perks of having a job), one of which is already on its way. Keep a lookout on my Instagram to know what it is 😀

Ladies and gentlemen, it is going to be a wonderful day, because we are going to make very, very sure of that.


Clock’s ticking, and there is absolutely zero time to waste. You do not need anybody else to count down the days to your birthday, because at the end of it all, that day will never hold as much importance to them as it does to you.

Like I always say, it’s now or never.